Whether you have a lavish wedding, a small wedding, get married at a courthouse, or sign the legal documents to effectuate a marriage in front of a notary, the fact remains the same: Wedding vows inherently include some rendition of the phrases “in sickness and in health”, “for richer or poor”, “for better or worse”, and most importantly, “til death do us part!” Let me re-emphasize: “Until DEATH, do us part” this means that once a couple is married, they vow to stay together until one or both die.
Back in the day, it was not surprising to see couples marry and actually stay together forever, like Herbert & Zelmyra Fisher, who have been married for 86 years. However, today the word marriage seems to take on a completely different meaning and rather has become a “trend”. Consequently, if I meet or learn of a couple that has been married for over 10 years, I get excited because longevity is rare in relationships. I am even surprised when I see couples married for longer than 5 years.
*Please note: When I say married, I’m not referring to:
- those who keep their marriage “status” for “their kids” while they conceal their misery together.
- those who keep their marriage “status”, but enter into a relationship with a 3rd party despite being married (I know….that’s another topic).
- Those who keep their marriage “status” because they don’t want to face the stigma that may be presented if they divorce.
I’m speaking of those who remain married and committed to each other because they truly love each other and honor the vows that they took and will deal with the sickness, health, rich, poor, better, worse, and refuse to part until death.
After being bombarded with the news updates on Kim Kardashian filing for divorce after being married for only 72 days, I stumbled across an article on the shortest marriages in Hollywood. These couples were married for short durations ranging from 2 days to 10 months. While this particular article only highlighted short marriages of celebrities, unfortunately, this happens in “the real world” just as much.
Of course, I understand that stuff happens, things don’t always go as planned, and sometimes it is genuinely in the best interest of the party(s) to end their marriage. However, in many cases,I can’t help but wonder if marriage is now just a trend. I wonder:
- “Do people get married only because they have the security of knowing that if it doesn’t work out they can get a divorce?”
- “What if there were no such thing as divorce?”,
- “What if you could only get married once during your lifetime?” or
- “What if divorce required a long, tedious, process and payment of huge monetary fees for wasting matrimonial space?
Would people be so quick to get married then? Or would they think long and hard before saying “I Do”?
What are your thoughts?