I frequently touch on the topic of marriage and how it seems as though society has completely changed its true meaning. Although I hope to one day be able to write on how the traditional concept of marriage has been restored throughout the nation, today, unfortunately, is not the day.
I came across an article that discussed materialism and marriage. Researchers conducted a survey of 1,700 married couples. The results revealed that couples in which one or both partners placed a high priority on getting or spending money were much less likely to have satisfying and stable marriages. Is this surprising?
In one out of every five couples in the study, both partners admitted to having a strong love of money. These couples were worse off in terms of marriage stability, marriage satisfaction, communications skills and other metrics of healthy matrimony that researchers studied.
Susan Heitler, a Denver-based clinical psychologist and creator of marriage resource site Poweroftwomarriage.com. stated: “People who are materialistic tend to be narcissistic and concerned with impressing people,” “They have a tendency to be anxious, depressed, have relatively poor relationship skills and have low self-esteem. These qualities in turn can cause marital problems.”
Sadly, I’m not surprised by the results of this study. I work with divorcing couples daily and unfortunately, many of them have chosen divorce due to problems caused by either too much or too little money. Many couples in the higher income bracket divorce because, due to long hours and the need to “keep up w/ the Jones’,” their marriages weren’t built on true love, but on the idea of being married and having a fairytale life full of glitz and glamour. Read More